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It’s not “just” about domestic violence against women. It’s not “just” about pro-Mary fen upset at seeing violence against her (while being okay with violence against other ‘antagonists’ or shady characters <— which is a straw man argument, btw, no one is actually okay with this).
It’s about looking at a gifset of a man gorily murdering his wife (and cleaning up after) and thinking “lol this could be mary” and “hnng, hot,” effectively turning domestic violence/murder into a joke and wank fodder (trivializing it, in other words).
It’s also about fandom’s (especially slash fandom’s) propensity to judge female characters according to different standards than men (most notably when they’re female characters ‘in the way’ of a beloved slash ship), how fandom excuses or valorizes male violence while female characters who are female or - godforbid! - villains are always bitches who deserve to die in horrible, awful ways. It’s about how Mary was villainized before she even appeared onscreen, hate and anti- blogs started before we knew how the show was going to present her, and the actress received death threats before series 3 even aired.
And once Mary turned out to have a shady past (somewhat equal to John’s, actually, in some ways), many Johnlock fans leapt upon this as ‘proof’ and vindication of all their darkest desires, and proceeded to springboard off that into even more grim and terrible headcanons, suppositions, and projections. (which, of course, they proceeded to tag, so that anyone ~foolish~ enough to like Mary would get faced with appalling and toxic behavior on the regular, which they defended with the kind of paltry arguments that I refuse to grant even the credence of spending time to refute here)
It’s about the naked glee with which some segments of Johnlockers did all this, and the silence of other Johnlockers in reaction to this, tacitly permitting, even encouraging it. (If you don’t got the spoons to engage in fandom drama or to call out bullshit, that’s one thing, but if I see you calling out bullshit EXCEPT in ~special cases~ then I’m gonna raise an eyebrow.)
Don’t fucking derail this by turning it into an argument about unequal reactions to domestic violence in different-gender vs. same-gender relationships. That’s not all that’s at play, here. There’s a larger context.
Get your shit together, fandom.
[If you reblog this to defend the people who made the gifs/threads in question right now, you will receive no response from me. None. Full stop.]
Thank you. Thank you.
I’ve been mulling over making a post about this all day. Every time I looked at my dash today, I saw posts glorifying violence against a woman. (Yes, a fictional woman, but keep reading for the point.) Not ten minutes ago, I saw one where people were claiming Mary ought to be sexually assaulted, and then others added they wanted that on a t-shirt. That post was reblogged by people I know. People I like.
The thing that really gets me is that I have yet to see any of this stuff tagged with a trigger warning for domestic abuse or sexual assault. People are just blithely reblogging without the slightest consideration that this shit might be massively triggering for people who have actually experienced domestic violence. Or for people who watched their mother’s arm get broken by a drug-addicted boyfriend, who endured phone calls in which he talked in explicit detail about how he was going to sexually assault her and then me (yeah, I’m talking about myself here), and told me there wasn’t a damn thing we could do about it.
And I know it isn’t just me.
So if you’re going to write or reblog posts or make gifs about how you think a female character you don’t like should be violently killed or sexually assaulted, could you at least consider tagging that? Or would that harsh your squee too much?
Yeah, I’m not “in” Sherlock fandom to the extent a lot of my friends are <3, but I’m still seeing some of this across my dash, and it’s so far from cool I cannot even express it.
I sort of like to pretend that we all grew the fuck out of being threatened by female characters to the point of violence when we all got older… but that’s apparently not true for everyone. I’m just incapable of understanding why an adult woman would have such vitriolic feelings toward a fictional woman, and if I see any more of this nonsensical Mary hate popping up on my dash, I will be booting you right the fuck off of it.
You commies looking for this?
… okay, so a few days ago somebody was listing in their tags all the movies Sebastian Stan’s been in, and one of the tags was “Hot Tub Time Machine,” and I THOUGHT THEY WERE KIDDING.
Um, we saw it IN THEATERS and also Eryn and I both have it on DVD I think. But Pete Wentz isn’t in it - that’s SEX DRIVE - some commonalities but not the same movie.
Anyway, Hot Tub Time Machine is funny as fuck and so is Sex Drive you goddamn heathens.
From Batman and Robin #23 (July 2011)
FAKE GEEK GUYS: A MESSAGE TO MEN ABOUT SEXUAL HARASSMENT
By Andy Khouri
“I think this woman is wrong about something on the Internet. Clearly my best course of action is to threaten her with rape.”
That’s crazy talk, right? So why does it happen all the time?
Honest question, dudes.
That women are harassed online is not news. That women in comics and the broader fandom cultures are harassed online is not news. That these women are routinely transmitted anonymous messages describing graphic sexual violence perpetrated upon them for transgressions as grave as not liking a thing… that is actually news to me, and it’s probably news to a lot of you guys reading this.
So what do we do about it?
This is important.
I’m warning you, I am a lethal killing machine.
my dog is named Lucky
and sometimes he escapes from our house, so we have to go get Lucky
and sometimes it’ll be dark out, and we’ll be up all night to get Lucky
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